In my time, I’ve felt pleasure that I’d liken to reaching the pearly gates, have had sex that has left me lost for words & have gotten to know my body better than I thought possible.
Sadly, yet formatively, below average experiences also frequent my past.
But I haven’t let sexual assault govern my story.
After attracting truly one of the most undermining sexual experiences at the beginning of last year, I decided no more. And I felt it in my soul.
It’s a powerful thing when you decide that you’re not going to allow it anymore. It’s a true force and it can’t be stirred.
It felt all too telling coming into 2023 shagging the night away, in fine, respectful company.
How polarising it is to be taken into consideration.
The story begins in my camp chair, on new years eve, where I am passing the time in one of my absolute favourite ways.
Sitting & observing…with no intention of moving.
It’s off camber but Cappy is in Victoria and she’s doofin’.
We’ve got sexy people to the left, sipping bevs whilst floating in the lake.
Sexy people to the right, reaching new highs on the d-floor.
And I’m in nirvana because I’m partaking in the people watching of my dreams.
Anyway, I’m chilling in my throne, taking it all in & I see this dude from afar & I’m curious because all I see is confidence.
And not the Byron ego kind.
Greenos flaggos.
For some unknown reason, I’ve gone and coined this guy liquid hips and it sticks.
Anyway, he’s chilling on the lake and I feel inclined to yell out to him.
Without flinching, he turns around and starts doing a full on striptease in front of a full audience and that’s when I knew I wanted a slice.
That’s the thing about people who are truly practicing the art of being themselves. I can’t bloody unsee them!
As the night went on, I found myself feeling more and more comfortable around this dude. Plenty of things about LH were ON but the part I was digging the most was that he really didn’t seem to give a fuck.
Whilst we’re on the topic of giving a fuck, I’m going to touch on what I think it takes to give a gooood fuck…for educational purposes.
1. Get to know your body.
Self pleasure is such a sexy tool. With enough practice, we can all be having orgasms on demand.
2. Speak up!
Having the courage to communicate what you’re into is key.
If it’s kinda freaky, rejoice in the fact that you aren’t beige.
3. Consent.
The importance of both participants being keen/good to go is one I can’t stress enough.
I’m guilty of having “get it over with” sex on countless occasions and that’s no good.
I’m only just becoming familiar with the idea of it so I’ll stop here but there’s plenty of info circling the www if you’re curious/keen to understand the premise.
4. This one is the best and I cannot stress it enough! Listen.to.queues!
If you’re doing something & getting good feedback, it’s usually not the time to change things up.
5. The more foreplay the better.
T’s & C’s:
- Jack hammering ain’t it
- Fingering is underrated
- Teasing is great
- Don’t leave balls out of the equation
- Faking orgasms is out
- Condoms suck but they’re in as well
Anyway, we’re back at the tent now & I’m asking liquid hips what he likes and he’s asking me what I like & I am having a great time.
Orgasms are coming at me from all angles because LH has decided that tonight, he will be listening to queues & genuinely caring that the exchange feels tip top for the both of us and vice versa.
That’s communication.
It’s a magic tool.
One that must be flexed.
One that will enhance every single aspect of your life when practiced effectively.
The amount of times I’ve asked guys what they’re in to only for them to reply with, “just what you’re doing” is too many to count.
Surely y’all know your bods better than I!
That kind of openness & communication made for one of the best sexual experience I have ever had….also helped that liquid hips wasn’t a virgin.
The truth is, healthy relationships take a whole lot of work.
Through uncomfortable conversations, vulnerability & a willingness to learn, you’ve got yourself some sexy solid foundations.
It’s 2023 and we’re saying hell no to average relationships and hell yes to speaking about what’s on our minds & in our hearts.
xx